Tuesday, December 30, 2014

E. J. Dionne Jr. urges that "all sides stop fighting and pool their energies to easing the marriage and family crisis that is engulfing working-class Americans"

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Says E.J.: "Kenworthy’s argument is that we can 'successfully embrace both flexibility and security, both competition and social justice.' His wish list is a straightforward set of progressive initiatives."


"We now seem to be living in the Age of High C, a period when every fight is Armageddon, every foe is a monster, and every issue is either the key to national survival or the doorway to ruin. . . .

"When I look around, I see a lot of liberals who live quite traditional family lives and even go regularly to churches, synagogues and mosques. I see a lot of conservatives who are feminists when it comes to their daughters' opportunities and who oppose bigotry against gays and lesbians."

-- E. J. Dionne Jr., in his Washington Post
column
"To a healthier democracy"

by Ken

My only problem with E. J. Dionne Jr.'s eminently sensible column urging a tone-down of the rhetorical decibel level is the notion that there's anything remotely symmetrical in the allotment of blame, when there's no doubt in my mind that it is caused, screeched, and blood-sucked-on something like 99 percent by the Right, which uses culture wars as a substitute for thought and for actually dealing with problems -- not to mention all that toxic grunge stored up inside them. In extreme cases like washingtonpost.com's hired right hand Jennifer Rubin, it appears to be the only reason for the vile creature's continuing to draw breath.

Now, it's certainly hard to quarrel with E.J.'s opening:
Meg Greenfield, the late Post editorial page editor, counseled against writing in “High C” all the time. By this she meant that an editorialist or columnist who expressed equally noisy levels of indignation about everything would lack credibility when something truly outrageous came along that merited a well-crafted high-pitched scream.

We now seem to be living in the Age of High C, a period when every fight is Armageddon, every foe is a monster, and every issue is either the key to national survival or the doorway to ruin.
And it's even harder to quarrel with his proposition that "this habit seems especially pronounced in the way President Obama's adversaries treat him." He goes on: "It's odd that so many continue to see Obama as a radical and a socialist even as the Dow hits record levels and the wealthy continue to do very nicely. If he is a socialist, he is surely the most incompetent practitioner in the history of Marxism." And here I guess I do have a little problem. I get the point that E.J. is making, but the first objection to the proposition that Obama is either a radical or a socialist is that you have to be a total ignoramus or a pathological liar to advance the proposition. That matters, doesn't it?

Certainly E.J. has an interesting point when he argues that in reality we are philosophically less divided than the ideological warriors "pretend."
In all of the well-off democracies, even people who call themselves socialists no longer claim to have an alternative to the market as the primary creator and distributor of goods and services. The boundaries on the left end of what’s permissible in the public debate have been pushed well toward the center. This makes the hysteria and hyperbole all the more incomprehensible.
Now he has a book plug, and coming from E.J. it certainly deserves to be taken seriously.
But let’s dream a little and assume that the American left signed on to the proposals put forward by Lane Kenworthy of the University of California-San Diego in his challenging (and, by the way, very pro-market) book “Social Democratic America,” published this year. Kenworthy’s argument is that we can “successfully embrace both flexibility and security, both competition and social justice.”

His wish list is a straightforward set of progressive initiatives. A few of them: universal health insurance and early education, extensive new help on job searches and training, a year of paid parental leave, an increased minimum wage indexed to prices, expansions of efforts that supplement wages such as the Earned Income Tax Credit, and the government as an employer of last resort.

His program, he says, would cost around 10 percent of our gross domestic product. Now that’s a lot of money, and the debate about whether we should spend it would be anything but phony. Yet would such a level of expenditure signal the death of our constitutional system? Would it make us like, say, Cuba? No and no. It might make us a little more like Germany, the Netherlands or the Scandinavian countries. We can argue if we want to do this, but these market democracies happen to share with us an affection for freedom and enterprise.
Returning to his "High C" theme, E.J. says
there’s nothing quite like our culture wars, in which disagreements about social issues are seen as battles between libertines and bigots. When I look around, I see a lot of liberals who live quite traditional family lives and even go regularly to churches, synagogues and mosques. I see a lot of conservatives who are feminists when it comes to their daughters’ opportunities and who oppose bigotry against gays and lesbians.
And he makes a pitch for joint action on behalf of the beleaguered family:
The ideological resolution I’d suggest for the new year is that all sides stop fighting and pool their energies to easing the marriage and family crisis that is engulfing working-class Americans.

This would require liberals to acknowledge what the vast majority of them already practice in their own lives: that, all things being equal, kids are better off with two loving and engaged parents. It would require conservatives to acknowledge that many of the pressures on families are economic and that the decline of well-paying blue-collar work is causing huge disruptions in family formation. I’d make a case that Kenworthy’s ideas for a more social democratic America would be good for families, but let’s argue it out in the spirit of a shared quest for remedies.

Maybe it’s asking too much, but might social conservatives also consider my friend Jonathan Rauch’s idea that they abandon their campaign against gay marriage in favor of a new campaign on behalf of the value of committed relationships for all of us?

Disagreement is one of the joys of freedom, so I am all for boisterous debate and tough political and philosophical competition. It’s how I make my living. But our democratic system would be healthier if it followed the Greenfield rule and reserved the harshest invective for things that are genuinely monstrous.
And again, I have nothing to quarrel with except the notion that this is aleft-right divide, when it's the Right that has created the model of the "family" as a cesspool of sociopathology if not outright psychosis whose principal function is as a breeding ground for future sociopaths. And I don't see how the chasm between this and a belief in basic human decency can be bridged.

Still, who knows?
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At 3:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


I've experienced a similar phenomenon on a micro level. An immediate family member is likely a BPD (if not an outright sociopath) and for decades will behave insanely innappropriately and manufacture fights and battles with anyone in proximity. When folks have naturally tired of this over time he bemoans how horrible it is that "we" can't get along or "we" can't find forgiveness and hold hands and sing Kumbaya. But the dirty little secret is he has absolutely no desire whatsoever to "get along" with anyone and thrives on chaos and discord, as long as no one points out he's the cause of it - which will engender nuclear meltdown. To me the modern right-wing is simply this mentality writ large. However many normal and well-intentioned folks are simply blind to it and are fooled into believing we could all just get along, that its all just respectful, mutual disagreement. I've learned as an adult that individuals who haven't had these types of experiences in their own lives are basically primed to buy into the laments and crocodile tears of the bomb-throwers that they too wish everyone could just get along when in reality they want nothing of the sort and never will. And point out this truth and suddenly you're the bad guy, holding up the grand reconciliation and not operating in good faith (a second round of crocodile tears usually erupts at this point). At some point rational folks become exhausted and simply walk away, confused and defeated, as most of my family has. Folks, again, well-intentioned, say, "I don't get it, I just don't understand why you can't just, you know, talk it out." And I smile so as not to seem annoyed with them and say, "you're right, it's terrible" and in my mind I think, "no, no you don't, you have no idea." And in a way I'm jealous. I wish I was them. I wish things were just "normal," and that I had no idea either.

 
At 4:52 PM, Blogger KenInNY said...

Yeah, I hear you, Anon! Thanks for sharing this beautifully expressed description and experience of the situation!

Cheers,
Ken

 

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